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What Parents Can Do When Children Are Angry and Fight

  1. Help the children to calm down.
  2. Separate the children.
  3. Help the children to think about why they are angry.
  4. Help each child think about what the other child is feeling.
  5. Tell the children how you feel about the situation.
  6. Help the children choose the best solution for the situation.
  7. Praise the children when they resolve a conflict without violence.
  8. Tell children it’s ok to be angry, but not ok to hurt others.